My boyfriend has a huge, HUGE problem with me wearing makeup.. I love this man with everything that I am.?

about 2 months in out relationship he mentions that he hates makeup, and mascara specifically. Basically because he finds me more attractive without it. he's caught me wearing it a couple times, and has now hidden my makeup bag. He's a wonderful man, and i know that he only is doing this because he loves me without the makeup.. He has really low self-esteem and I think that this has a big part in why he's like that. Afraid that someone else is going to find me attractive and I'm going to leave. No matter what I tell him nothing seems to ease his mind though.. Advice Needed!My boyfriend has a huge, HUGE problem with me wearing makeup.. I love this man with everything that I am.?
:) i would have a difficult time looking at my man with makeup on. so i understand some guys dont like their girls with makeup, especially if they grew up around women who 'didnt' wear any makeup. check his mom, sisters, etc.





i know my bf doesnt like me to wear makeup, well, its something ive been wearing for years and years and have gotten used to 'looking' at myself WITH makeup. something that he doesnt understand. so, i imagine youre going thru the same thing. kind of makes you feel undressed without makeup. like your face is 'naked' without some covering. that would be like wearing pants without underwear. its a sort of 'protective' covering or enhancement that youre used to doing. i try going without makeup and i dont see myself i guess. maybe youre feeling the same way.


so what do you do? your bf obviously finds women attractive that wear makeup. so he also feels other men will find you attractive with makeup. its a conundrum. maybe instead of wearing mascara...you can have your eyelashes dyed? my sis did that once or twice with a dark blue/black tint and it looked very nice and natural. this is the 'idea' behind makeup is to look like those 'natural' beauties. we're not trying to make our bf insecure. it's about 'our' insecurity actually. i wear makeup to feel covered and natural and awake (hehe) instead of dull and sleepy. (old age i guess)


explain to your bf how you personally feel about your makeup. maybe he will be more understanding of your insecurities also. maybe you can compromise by wearing the makeup less often. good luckMy boyfriend has a huge, HUGE problem with me wearing makeup.. I love this man with everything that I am.?
In a relationship, you shouldn't have to hide anything. Unconditional love does not mean that he only wants to be with you if you don't wear makeup.


If it is only a 2 month old relation ship then I would really think about if this is what you want. He is already showing conlrol issues and they always get worse not better. Neat he will be telling you what you can't wear.
well...if he did he woulda never went out with you. tell him to get over it and if he doesnt......then leave him!! he is so not worth it...he might even be gay! lol
He's not wonderful. He's a controlling guy, and things will getter worse after you get married.


Anyway, you wont break up with him because of that, but one day, you'll remember my answer... These guys' controlling obsessions get worse over time. It starts with mascara. Then will be your clothes, shoes, friends, and relatives.
Maybe you have clown makeup!! Did ya ever stop to consider that!!!
If that is now I will be sorry for you later


he is all about control= next he will be telling you to get rid of your girl friends
well that say alot.. he loves you for who you are .. So lose the make up.. than.. xoxox Trisha %26lt;3 Allen
Don't wear makup then. Just for a little while then when he know that your not going to leave, have another talk with him when he fully trusts that your not going to leave.
you have to explain to your boyfriend that you like wearing make up. tell him its not to attract anyone but that it makes you feel good. its pretty immature of him to hide your bag, but i suppose he must really hate your makeup. tell him youll wear less but its wrong for him to make you feel bad about wearing makeup. your a woman...its your right
What a pair! Your boyfriend has a right to express his preferences, but he has no right to act like you are his property. He's dangerously unstable. And you! You ';love him with everything you am';? Ugh! Don't destroy yourself because you like a guy. Nobody should do that. You start doing that and pretty soon there's no more ';you'; there for anyone to love, including yourself.





My advice is for you to pretty much stay away from that lunatic as much as you can, give him emotional support if he's going to therapy, and maybe he can make some progress and then you can spend more time together. If that doesn't happen, you're going to see some pretty painful years ahead.
Can we say controll FREAK? He needs help..pretty soon he will start to hide to keys to your car as well!! You HAVE to put your foot down and tell him that if he does not like it too bad that it makes you feel pretty....
Perhaps he's allergic to it. I'm allergic to some face powders that women wear and when I go to kiss them I get a reaction that is unpleasant or it could be as you say. Never mind about his low self-esteem, what about your love for him. If you can't change some things for him, then you shouldn't ask him to change anything either.
wear it lightly.
you hit the nail on the head when you said that he is afraid that someone else is gonna find you attractive, its not because he loves you with none on, he is jealous and thinks hes not good enough for you, well i wouldnt let him dictate to you cos thats exactly what hes doing, you ever heard of the saying yesterdays jealous man is todays lonely fool?? when thats gonna be him if he doesnt wise up and stop this nonsense...............good luck x
he is not doing this out of love... he is doing it out of control! Its control period... he wants to try to see if he can control you and you are taking the bait.... tell him to shove off and you'll wear makeup if you want to... that's exactly what I had to do with an ex of mine...
He sounds like a total control freak. Whats he going to take away next? All of your skirts and high heels? He has NO right to take your things away from you regardless of his reasons. I'm sorry, but I think this relationship is headed for failure.
You need to let your man know that its YOUR choice whether you wear makeup or not.


Maybe talk it over and explain to him you aren't just going to 'leave' him for the next guy that finds you attractive.


Makeup is a way of expressing yourself and he needs to understand that he can't control you cause thats what it sounds like. .


If he really is upset about it maybe. . if you want. . only wear makeup if your going out or with your girlfriends, you know ?


Then when your alone with him go bare-faced or just wear minimal make-up like lipgloss, concealer, blush,etc.





Good luck %26amp; Peace :D
I have to agree with Bunny. If he's trying to control something as simple as make-up, then what's next. I know that you said that he has low self-esteem but his low self-esteem is just going to bring yours down also. You really need to evaluate this relationship before things inevitably get worse (and they will). Good luck.
whoah... first explain that you love him and are not going to venture off. that you feel pretty when you wear makeup. and that he should love you just the way you are and not try to change you. and if he doesnt like it cause he is insecure... remember you must love your self first before loving someone else
You need to make it clear that makeup is up to you to wear or not. If he's got issues, he needs to deal with them and not take them out on you.
It sounds like you but clumps and clumps of make-up that you could notice your wearing make-up from a mile away. Try to have a natural look . He probably wouldn't notice :]
If he is this controlling with your make up..What will be next..Something to really take in consideration.